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Fetish From the Editor

BEAUTY, SEX
Dori Hartley | VenusBlogs Managing Editor
Photos: Google image search

As Managing Editor for VenusBlogs, I spend a good portion of my day researching and reading everything there is out there on the subject of what makes women tick sexually. Oddly enough, in a world that is comprised of all body types and preferences, I’m still finding that when it comes to women’s fantasies and fetishes — I can’t get past the wall of boring stereotypes.

Does it really always have to boil down to the Patrick Swayze in the Saturday Night Live Chippendales skit fantasy? Hunks with bow ties and rip away pants? You know — I can accept that. I’m OK with the big, bruiser types, I’m even fine with muscles and hunks — I’m more than fine with the Vin Diesels and Dwayne Johnsons of the world. I’m even cool with the Viggo Mortensens and the George Clooneys. Alright, throw Channing Tatum in as well. I’m happy to Tatum. In fact, yes, let’s Tatum.

But still. Gabrielle wrote an article about feminism and porn yesterday. And it got me thinking: I don’t see what I want in porn. Ever. Which is why I don’t watch it. There’s nothing in porn that even slightly gets to me. And why? Because they never ever show the kind of guys I like, the ones that I’m so specific about that I’d have to honestly call it a fetish.

What do I like? What would I like to see pornified if I had my choice? Pretty boys with long hair. And no, I don’t mean Muscle Beach in a wig. I mean, male model types, skinny, pretty, tall and lanky. And the longer the hair, the better. And guess what? I’m not alone.

All over the world there are women who absolute fall on their faces for pretty boys. So…why is it assumed that the only thing that gets (straight) women hot are bulky macho men?

I’ve even had arguments with other women about this. One woman I know is so adamantly against my love for pretty boys that she attributes my passion for feminine looking men to some kind of deficiency in my character. Like, “You like men who look like women because you can’t handle real men.” Wrong, bitch, move along. Pretty boys are real men. And I’m not looking for a vagina down there. I know exactly what I like and though it may look like Emily Deschanel on top, it definitely looks like Channing Tatum on the bottom.

In my private little world, Venus is a man. Enjoy with me some of the men who float the editor’s boat. And don’t worry, once your perusal is done, I promise you’ll retain your status as card-carrying stud-loving female. For now, let’s suffer through this together.

Alex Rosaleny. Does this man need anything more?

 

Atsushi Sakurai. Would you honestly say no to sex with this man?

 

Fernando Balcevicz. Too pretty to deal with?

 

Igor Nigmatullin. I just don’t see much of a problem here.

 

So, for now, the bow ties and cuffs can stay over there. All those Village People get-ups and bow-chica-wow-wow bulge-a-thons — good for the gal who digs gladiators in fireman outfits. As for me, I’ll be kicking back with a Details magazine and a chaser of Men’s Vogue.

Have a great weekend, ladies. Cheers.

  • PM

    Dori, i love this article. I have plenty of friends that are with you, and i can definitely see why it would be alluring. Theres something to be said about the pretty young, long hair don’t care boys… add a little facial hair and a 6 ft stature and dirty jeans and i could follow.

    • http://venusblogs.com/ VenusBlogs

      Oh, well, thank you so much PM. Sure, I’m all for a little facial hair and I’ve always been ALL about the 6 ft and over, so that with the ripped up jeans — yes, yes and more yes.

  • <3 long hair

    PM missed the point.They do not need facial hair to be a man. That is just silly. They are real man and they are over 6 feet…like having long hair mean you short!I live in the USA and I have found that most thin long hair guy are well hung and know how to use it unlike their counter parts who spent way to much time at the gym and admiring themselves in the mirror to please a women or guy for that matter in bed. The reason they are not in porn is their hair gets in the way of the shots.

    • http://venusblogs.com/ VenusBlogs

      Well, I cannot speak for PM, but I think she was just mentioning what her preference is. Facial hair is the cherry on top of her long-haired dream boy picture. As for knowing how to use it, well, I think that’s really an individual thing. We who love the long-haired men would like to think of them all as dynamos in the sack, but I would imagine that is up to the man himself. And I’m pretty sure it’s not the hair that keeps them out of porn, it’s that they’re slim and wraith-like and the women who dig the gladiator-firemen prefer the buff boys better to the slim lovelies that we so admire.

  • Sandra Harmon

    The beautiful boys you are attracted to, are, for the most part, “feminine energy” men, which does not mean they are gay. However, if they are straight, their nature would suggest that they will prefer to be with “masculine energy” women. Each person needs to pick a complimentary opposite. Even in a gay relationship, there must be one person who is more male, and the other more female, in order for it to be successful. I write about this in my two books on the subject, GETTING TO I DO and STAYING MARRIED AND LOVING IT.