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Venus Blogs http://venusblogs.com Venus Blogs - Real Talk for Women Thu, 28 Jul 2016 18:39:28 +0000 en-US hourly 1 An Anti-Aging Pill– For Real http://venusblogs.com/an-anti-aging-pill-for-real-3/ http://venusblogs.com/an-anti-aging-pill-for-real-3/#respond Thu, 28 Jul 2016 18:39:28 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/an-anti-aging-pill-for-real-3/ No matter how many anti-aging lotions and potions I rub into my skin, it’s unlikely that I’m going to wake up one day soon, glance in the mirror, and see my 30-old-face staring back at me.  But the burgeoning nutritional supplement market, estimated at a whopping $20+ billion, consistently promises it can help me live healthier–and feel younger. Although I’d be willing to keep my crow’s feet and laugh lines, in exchange for feeling as tip-top as I did decades ago, so many supplement claims seem downright absurd, even if Dr. Oz is making them!

It got my attention, however, when I heard that a Stanford-educated PhD, with his advanced degree in cancer biology, had discovered a vitamin that actually could reduce the effects of aging and prompt our cells to act like they did when we were younger. Was this for real?  

I wanted to learn more, so I arranged for an interview with Dr. Charles Brenner, the scientist, and asked him to explain his discovery in non-scientific terms. If a highly educated scientist hoped to teach me anything, he had to make it simple. Biology was my worst subject in high school!

Discovering The Pathway To Cell Longevity

Dr. Brenner is the polar opposite of Dr. Oz when it comes to publicity; that’s why you’ve likely never heard his name. The brilliant scientist discovered the pathway between nicotinamide riboside (NR), a miracle molecule with exciting ‘anti-aging’ abilities, and nicotinamide adenine dinucleotide (NAD), which is the single most important molecule in every single cell of our bodies. Now Dr. Brenner is speaking out about his discovery, because many companies misleadingly claim that their supplements can do the same thing as supplements with NR. That’s simply not true, he asserts!

“OK, so what’s the big deal about NAD?” I asked Dr. Brenner. “We all absolutely need it,” he quickly responded. “NR is a form of vitamin B3 that helps our cells to produce NAD. NAD performs a number of critical functions: It enables our cells to convert the fats, proteins and carbohydrates we eat into the energy we need to stay in top shape. It also activates our longevity genes, known in the scientific community as sirtuin genes, which regulate cellular aging and the chemical and biological processes that help us maintain healthy and fit lives. Those processes are called metabolism,” Dr. Brenner told me.

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Unfortunately, our level of NAD substantially declines as our bodies slow down with age, making us more susceptible to certain health issues, like hearing loss, rare muscle diseases, nerve damage, heart conditions, obesity, diabetes, and more. Aging is the biggest risk factor for many of the diseases that kill us. Doing cardio and weight-bearing exercises all week, consuming a diet of nutritious whole foods, getting adequate sleep, and staying away from smoking and drinking are all important. The inevitable stresses of life, however, lead to the decline of our NAD levels, and therefore require supplementation, Dr. Brenner emphasizes.

What Your Metabolism Absolutely Needs As You Age

NAD gives our metabolism the extra push it needs to reduce the effects of aging, and make the cells function like they did when they were younger. That’s a big deal.

Here’s another way to think about NR: It’s like the fuel to keep an engine functioning in an energy-efficient car. “As the engine becomes older, it becomes less efficient, and requires more fuel to keep it maintained,” Dr. Brenner explains. “Cells damaged by the inevitable stresses of life, such as aging, exposure to sun, or alcohol, look for NR in order to replenish their NAD and repair the damage. If we are taking an NR supplements, our bodies can maintain NAD.”

Prior to Dr. Brenner’s discovery, our cells could produce NAD with the help of  tryptophan, an amino acid which synthesises protein, or from niacin and nicotinamide, also forms of vitamin B3. “But each of them has limitations,” Dr. Brenner reports. “Tryptophan is just plain inefficient; niacin at high doses causes flushing, and nicotinamide inhibits sirtuins, those genes I was talking about before that lengthen life, and help treat age-related diseases like diabetes, neurodegeneration, and cancer. The other compounds have been available since the late 1930s, but they don’t provide the additional advantages of NR.”

NR increases NAD, but doesn’t inhibit sirtuins, won’t cause flushing, and is the vitamin that our stressed cells look for to regenerate their vital NAD. When the scientific community first looked at Dr. Brenner’s research, it was excited to see that he had discovered something that would help the aging population to maintain muscle mass and function, as well as heart, nerve and cognitive function. Soon to release the results of a clinical trial, Dr. Brenner expects it to show that the NAD levels of healthy humans increased, even when they took single doses of NR.

A Science-Backed Brand You Can ACTUALLY Trust

home-hero-product-imageThere’s more good news: Dr. Brenner is co-founder and the chief scientist of a company called ProHealthspan, which distributes an NR supplement under the brand name TruNIAGEN®. He wants to assure us that we’re getting the real benefits of his important discovery, without the side effects of some other supplements.

People who have started taking TruNIAGEN report subtle changes in their overall feelings of well-being; improved sleep quality; consistent energy; improved cognitive function, and skin health within four to 16 weeks of taking their first dose.

Dr. Brenner also looks forward to determining the role of TruNIAGEN® in improving cholesterol, and helping with weight management, diabetes and neuropathy. “We’re hoping to enroll patients this year in a breast cancer neuropathy trial,” he says.

“My educated guess is that the more stresses a person has, the more TruNIAGEN® will be helpful,” Dr. Brenner claims. “It will be beneficial even when you’re  in your 70s and 80s!”

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This Lady Sure Knows How To Toot Her Own Horn http://venusblogs.com/this-lady-sure-knows-how-to-toot-her-own-horn/ http://venusblogs.com/this-lady-sure-knows-how-to-toot-her-own-horn/#respond Tue, 26 Jul 2016 17:32:10 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/this-lady-sure-knows-how-to-toot-her-own-horn/ Louise Baranger first put her hands on a trumpet in the fourth grade.

“Someone came to the school so we could learn to play band instruments. My best friend’s brother had a trumpet in their attic, so she had to play the trumpet. Of course, I said ‘I’ll play the trumpet.’ I immediately realized this was me. The trumpet was really cool,” Louise told me.

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Born in Hollywood, Louise grew up in Irvine, CA, because her lawyer dad wanted to be near the beach. She and her third husband, Fred Tregaskis, now reside in Connecticut. Fred owns New England Wine Cellars and does a show for National Public Radio called A Moment in Wine. Louise still toots the trumpet as a freelance player and a member of an all-girls band in New York called DIVA. Her first CD, Trumpeter’s Prayer, was released in 1996. She’s looking for a record label for her new album, The Great American Groove Book

Did you grow up in a musical family?

My grandfather wrote music for the Shuberts back in the 20s, then screenplays and lyrics. My grandmother was in an episode of The Twilight Zone, but she had to quit acting when she got hepatitis. My mother was an extra in many movies as a teenager, including  Bedtime for Bonzo with Ronald Reagan. So I was aware of the business growing up. My grandfather and my parents encouraged me  to play. It just felt like a good thing to do.

Tell us about what happened with your playing after the fourth grade.

I played through elementary school, but I was ‘way too cool’ to play in the middle school band, plus the band was terrible, so I quit. I wanted to be in the band again in high school, so I took out the trumpet out and got it together. I took lessons with a local guy who played the accordion but taught me basic music stuff. I liked leading the band as first trumpet in high school.

When I was in 9th grade, I started to study with Harold ‘Pappy’ Mitchell, who was first trumpet in the MGM Studios orchestra from the late 20s through the 40s. He played in the original Jazz Singer, Gone With The Wind and The Wizard of Oz. He was amazing and taught all the good players in the area. I studied with him through high school.

I went to a community college in Mission Viejo, which had an amazing music department, then moved back to LA and started working. Many times I asked myself whether I needed a music degree, but since I didn’t want to teach and I studied with famous players like Bobby Shew and Bill Vacchiano, who was in the New York Philharmonic, I decided I really didn’t need it.

I was offered a job with Harry James when I was 24. After that I had credibility. Then I played with Nelson Riddle and Ray Anthony. Harry opened the door for everything.

I’ve been on tv shows including Saturday Night Live and The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson, and in movies. I played on albums and videos with Joe Cocker and Bobby Womack, and backed up live performances by Dionne Warwick, Carol Lawrence, Joan Rivers and others. I was a soloist with the Cleveland Jazz Orchestra and at the Stars and Stripes Presidential Inaugural Ball in Washington, D.C. in 2005. I currently play with the brass quintet, Revolutionary Brass, and perform a wine tasting and music show for fundraisers and other private events with with my husband.

1What drew you to the trumpet?

I felt like I was speaking through the trumpet. It just felt right. It felt comfortable, like what I should be doing. Each instrument  is powerful in its own ways. If you put a bunch of musically inclined kids in a room with instruments, they’ll  first  be attracted to the physical instruments and how they feel  in their hands.  Then they’ll listen to someone playing and gravitate to the one that’s ‘right’ for them. It’s like their ‘voice.’

What style of music do you play?

I’ve been in Latin bands to brass quintets, which I love. I’ve played with rock-type society bands that play Motown with singers and big shows. I’ll play Broadway, rock n roll and modern jazz. I write a little, but it’s not a passion for me.

Is it physically demanding to play the trumpet? How often do you practice?

I practice at least an hour everyday; sometimes two or three hours. Practice helps keep your musculature strong so you have the endurance to play. Most players stop in their 70s, certainly in their 80s. You have to slow down at some point because you can no longer physically do it. I do deep breathing exercises to take in the most air and help my lungs. I also practice yoga breathing. I hike, play tennis, and bike with my husband.

Please tell us about how women are perceived in your business, especially older women

Age is an issue in the music business, and I hate that. When I was 39, a photographer told me to start lying about my age or I wouldn’t get work. It’s dignified and cool for a man to get older, but it’s this embarrassment for a woman. I’ve lost a couple of gigs because they said they wanted people under 40. And that was when I was 45. I look very decent for my age. I’m in pretty good shape. It’s a stigma in the entire entertainment industry. Women in the public eye are scrutinized. ‘Oh, she doesn’t look that great anymore.’

2I work with men most of the time, as old as 75, and many are insensitive and childish. They work in a business where they don’t need to grow up.  It’s like a boy’s club where they posture with each other, like a bunch of guys getting together to play pool. It’s not like they’re trying to be disrespectful. The music business is fun. The men almost expect me to react to their behavior. They’re usually extremely cool about me playing. They’re just an earthy bunch of guys expressing themselves. It’s probably never going to change, so I’ve spent my life fitting in with that. Getting offended is a waste of time.

Leslie Nielsen didn’t want me in a movie he was doing because he didn’t want a woman trumpet player sitting behind him. It would distract from him, he said. When Harry James’s band backed up George Burns singing country music in 1983, George brought everyone up to his suite for dinner  ‘Harry. Did you know there’s a girl in your band,’ he joked about me.

Do many women play the trumpet?

When I joined the band in high school, the first trumpet player was a woman, but there were few women trumpet players then. Women all over the world play the trumpet today. Alison Balsom is a British classical player and a mega star. Tine Thing is a classical player from Scandinavia.

The women who have hung in there have helped all women come a long way. Stand up for yourself. Be strong. Do the best job you can. Just being there will help pave the way for other women. I appreciate what I had and what I have now. 

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No Red Wine = No Hot Flashes & Better Sleep for Magnolia http://venusblogs.com/no-red-wine-no-hot-flashes-better-sleep-for-magnolia/ http://venusblogs.com/no-red-wine-no-hot-flashes-better-sleep-for-magnolia/#respond Mon, 25 Jul 2016 04:00:55 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/no-red-wine-no-hot-flashes-better-sleep-for-magnolia/ You have no idea how much I hate to admit what I’m about to tell you. If you know me or have read my blog for any length of time, then you also know how much I love red wine.  Not white wine. Red wine. Deep, dark, dry, red wine.  In fact, the dryer, the […]

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Are You Ready to Date Again? http://venusblogs.com/are-you-ready-to-date-again/ http://venusblogs.com/are-you-ready-to-date-again/#respond Sun, 24 Jul 2016 15:07:08 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/are-you-ready-to-date-again/

the-secret-to-never-being-singleNews flash: According to AARP, almost 50% of people over 50 are single.

Many of my mid-life friends are divorced or widowed and are thinking about tip toeing back into the sometimes scary world of dating. Does that sound like you?

But, to put it gently . . . they’re rusty.

Let’s take my friend Judy. She still thinks she needs to find someone who’s “ideal” based on her notions of what “ideal” was when she was dating 30 years ago. “He has to be good at hiking, dislike dogs, love cats, and be over six feet,” she told me recently. “Oh, and not have kids.”

Okay, then.

Or, what about another friend who is so confident that someone will simply fall into her lap, so to speak, she pooh-poohs online dating, telling people she’s looking, or putting herself in situations where she might increase her chances of meeting men.

Good luck to you, matey.

As a life-long busy body and self-appointed “fixer,” I contacted a dating coach to find out how I could help women get back into the dating game successfully, and without the angst.

Bobbi Palmer, founder of Date Like a GrownUp, gave me an earful about what she’s seeing out there.

“They’re paralyzed!” Bobbi exclaimed on the phone. She was referring to the many women who seek her help in getting back to dating after decades of being in long term relationships. It’s the classic “deer in the headlights” phenomenon, she said. Even the most successful and confident women she meets become anxious and insecure when they think about dating again.

Bobbi is on a mission, though, to help women get back out there by giving them the right tools to get over their “silly stuff,” find dates, and have some fun! And, for goodness sakes, isn’t having fun a big part of life after 50?

Here’s a short Skype conversation I had with Bobbi during which she shared her best tips for getting back into the dating game.

Bobbi also told me what she thinks are the 5 biggest mistakes women in midlife make about love and dating:

  1. We don’t cherish who we are now: Don’t view yourself through the lens of the 18-year old you were 20 or 30 years ago. You’re not that woman now. You’re better, stronger, smarter and more fabulous in every way. Love who you are now, and the right person will, too.
  2. We don’t step outside our comfort zones: Maybe you were comfortable with the man you were married to for decades and now you’re looking for the same thing. But, if you do that, you might miss out on giving some wonderful potential dates an opportunity. Open your mind, and spread your net.
  3. We don’t have a plan: Too many women, for whatever reason, don’t strategize how they will meet people to date. Some really believe men will simply fall out of the sky. The good news is there are great options: online dating, classes, social events, and social media should all have a place in your dating toolkit. And don’t forget to get the word out: let everyone know you’re interested in dating again.
  4. We don’t understand grown up men: It’s true, Bobbi says. We still think men are like those 20- or 30-something year olds we dated before getting married. It’s time to rethink men. They’ve grown up and learned from life experiences, just like you. Don’t underestimate them.couple-on-date-restaurant_410x290 (1)
  5. We don’t know how to present ourselves online: We have to engage, not just report. To do that, talk about yourself with stories, not lists of accomplishments or adjectives. And whatever you do, don’t lie!

And here’s my addition to Bobbi’s excellent list: get help. Talk to a professional dating or relationship coach about how to put your best foot forward.

Questions? I want to hear from you! For more tips on living your best life after 50 (or 60, or 70…) check out The Best of Everything After 50: The Experts’ Guide to Style, Sex, Health, Money and More and subscribe to www.bestofeverythingafter50.com. Keep me posted on how you’re doing by connecting with me on Facebook and “tweeting” me on Twitter at @BGrufferman. 

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Should You Use Birth Control Pills for Perimenopause Symptoms? http://venusblogs.com/should-you-use-birth-control-pills-for-perimenopause-symptoms/ http://venusblogs.com/should-you-use-birth-control-pills-for-perimenopause-symptoms/#respond Sun, 24 Jul 2016 05:00:23 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/should-you-use-birth-control-pills-for-perimenopause-symptoms/ I’ve never been a huge fan of birth control pills. Though, like many young women in the 60s and 70s, I certainly tried them.  I also had a lot of friends who simple had to take them (or so they were told), to help regulate their menstrual cycles. Fortunately for me, they were never a […]

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Taking My New Sunglasses On A Trip http://venusblogs.com/taking-my-new-sunglasses-on-a-trip/ http://venusblogs.com/taking-my-new-sunglasses-on-a-trip/#respond Wed, 20 Jul 2016 15:29:05 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/taking-my-new-sunglasses-on-a-trip/ When we polled you to ask which of 9 sunglass frames you liked most on me, this style came in 3rd. I couldn’t order the styles that came in #1 and #2, because they weren’t available with prescription lenses (although I loved them, too!)

The name of these frames is She Moves, which is spooky because I’m moving next week from the Manhattan co-op apartment that I’ve lived in for 24 years to Brooklyn! You can read about why I’m making this big move at 69 right here.

Love these new sun shades from @anneetvalentin #sunglasses #eyewear

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Leaving Manhattan After 48 Years! http://venusblogs.com/leaving-manhattan-after-48-years/ http://venusblogs.com/leaving-manhattan-after-48-years/#respond Tue, 19 Jul 2016 14:35:18 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/leaving-manhattan-after-48-years/ When I took my friend Debbi to see the house I’m buying in Brooklyn, NY, she said: “I don’t know why you’re making such a big move at 69!”

I’ll tell you what I told Debbi in a moment, but first let me give you the details: I’ve owned a wonderful, 1,300-square-foot apartment (plus outdoor area) on the Upper East Side of Manhattan since 1992. I’ve loved living here, and if the walls had ears and mouths, they would tell you some pretty wild and wooly things.

On the less racy side, I remember the Christmas dinner buffet party I threw for about 100 employees. The weather was especially mild that year, which allowed guests to gather in the outdoor space, where the bar was set up. I hosted my own 50th birthday party at the apartment, surrounded by the people in my life who were the “most fun.” I vividly recall returning home late one evening from an exhausting European business trip and locking myself out within minutes. I remember welcoming a never-ending stream of my son’s friends, who would often gather here since it was close to their school. I loved making them meals. To this day, they call me “Godmother Brin.”

I always thought this would be where I’d live for the rest of my life, but I started to change my mind a couple of years ago, for two major reasons:

First, the maintenance on my apartment keeps rising, and is now $3,500 a month, which is pretty steep for a co-op of this size. The maintenance covers costs including the doormen salaries (I could care less if I have a doorman); redecorating the lobby and the hallways when the “board” decides they need to be redecorated (even if they don’t need to be decorated); replacing two elevators for $250,000 each that should have been replaced 15 years ago (for far less); Christmas parties with absolutely horrible food; Thanksgiving decorations for the lobby (usually tacky). These monthly costs rise every year.

When you live in a co-op, you don’t actually “own” the apartment; instead, you own shares in the co-op, which is set up as a corporation with a board. Co-op boards also have to approve most every single thing a tenant wants to do in his or her apartment, from painting to installing a new bathroom sink, from putting up a new wall to tearing down an old one. When I wanted to install central air and heating four years ago, my entreaty was flat-out rejected because two other tenants were fighting over a noisy air conditioner one of them had installed. It didn’t matter that my proposal had nothing whatsoever to do with the neighbors’ argument. In fact, the central AC/heating unit I wanted to install is far quieter than traditional ACs. (BTW, I installed the unit anyway, which eventually caused me grief, but I’ve enjoyed having a superior AC and heating system). Oh, and when you sell your apartment, you also have to turn over 2% of the sale to the building. That’s called a flip tax.

Co-op boards have horrible reputations throughout Manhattan. Most board members get all mixed up and actually start to believe they’re powerful and important people because they have some “control” over their neighbors’ welfare. Thankfully, new buildings rising all over the city now are condominiums, which are far less restrictive.   

Reason #2 I’m leaving: Although I’ve loved being a Manhattan resident for the past 48 years, I crave a new adventure. Becoming a Brookynite will indeed be an adventure. I’ll be the owner of a real home, with back and front yards; gas and electric meters, and a enormous heating unit in the cellar, not to mention my own laundry equipment. I’ve never owned a washing machine or dryer; I’ve only used communal equipment in the buildings where I lived.  

The 1899 house has a cellar and three floors.

I’m converting the garden level into an apartment that I plan to rent, and using the two levels above it as my home and office. That will make me a landlord, another new adventure. I’ll have a spacious deck right outside my kitchen, where I’ll be able to barbecue, which is verboten on my Manhattan outdoor space. I’ll also be able to do my exercise sessions outdoors, when the weather is nice. Never did that before!  And, it will be a treat to look at the charming old tin ceilings before I retire at night and when I wake in the morning.

Although the area in Brooklyn to which I’m moving–it’s called Bedford Stuyvesant–is thriving with restaurants, shops and services, I won’t have everything practically right outside my door, as I do on Manhattan’s Upper East Side. I’ll actually have to walk about three blocks to the drug store and drive to get to the kind of grocery stores I like. That’s another adventure. I haven’t owned a car since my college days. I’m also looking forward to taking excursions around the different neighborhoods of Brooklyn, which all are metamorphosing. My parents wouldn’t recognize the Brooklyn where they were born and raised.

Yet, Manhattan is only a 15-minute subway ride away. It actually will take the same time to reach downtown Manhattan from my new home as it does to get there from uptown.

My last day as a Manhattanite is next Wednesday, but I won’t actually be moving into the house that day.

I’ll be subletting an apartment nearby for six weeks, so I’ll be able to see how the renovation is moving along. I look forward to sharing news about my new old home with you as it shapes up. And, if you plan to visit New York, please stop by!

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Tea With Me Liver Elixir: A New Approach to Perimenopause Symptoms http://venusblogs.com/tea-with-me-liver-elixir-a-new-approach-to-perimenopause-symptoms/ http://venusblogs.com/tea-with-me-liver-elixir-a-new-approach-to-perimenopause-symptoms/#respond Tue, 12 Jul 2016 20:07:57 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/tea-with-me-liver-elixir-a-new-approach-to-perimenopause-symptoms/ I love this company!  Tea with Me  is a tea company out of Australia which provides medicinal teas formulated by nutritionists, physicians, and herbalists, with the goal of addressing health and wellness issues for women.  It is a company which was started by a woman, and which continues to look to women to inspire the products […]

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My Husband Was A Sex Addict! http://venusblogs.com/my-husband-was-a-sex-addict/ http://venusblogs.com/my-husband-was-a-sex-addict/#respond Tue, 12 Jul 2016 15:22:35 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/my-husband-was-a-sex-addict/ Charlotte is as pretty as her name. She’s in her early fifties, and was born abroad, although her slight accent doesn’t give away where. She married a man from another continent, decades her senior, and they raised their son in the United States, where they launched a successful business together. Charlotte was his third wife.

Anyone meeting them would swear she was the love of this man’s life. And, were it not for his sexual addiction, she might very well have been.

Even after Charlotte found out about her husband’s wandering ways, and he vowed they were over, he continued to betray her trust. She had enough when he claimed he was on yet another business trip, but she heard him greet his lover in the hotel room (he accidentally left his cell phone on after he and Charlotte talked.) She was sad, but she wasn’t surprised.

Charlotte and the wanderer are divorced and she’s been dating a younger man for a couple of years. She’s crazy about him and is wild about their great sex, but has no plans to remarry. She did, however, run into a potential problem last weekend, when she took a two-day trip to New York without telling her boyfriend why she was going. Then she feared he made plans to see another woman.

“He had a terrible childhood and has a terrific fear of abandonment. When he and his first wife divorced, he was distraught because her family stopped communicating with him. He interpreted the family’s reaction as abandonment, even though it shouldn’t have astounded him.” Charlotte told me.

“Why didn’t you tell him why you were going to New York, and what gave you the idea that he intended to see another woman? He could have been thinking you were planning to see another man, especially because he has a fear of abandonment,” I said, wearing my Geri Brin psychologist hat!

“I didn’t tell him why I was going to New York because I think I was trying to test him,” Charlotte answered.

“That’s not good,” I added. “But why did you think he was seeing another woman?”

fb“A woman he knows has been ‘loving’ his Facebook photos for a long time. She even ‘loves’ photos I post of him on my Facebook page. And, on Saturday morning, she commented on his page that they should check out a concert this weekend. When I went to look at her comment again, it was gone,” Charlotte explained.  

Unnerved by what she read, Charlotte made an oblique comment about “thinking before he acted” when she and her boyfriend texted each other. He stopped texting after that. That worried Charlotte.

“I think you need to be honest with him when you get back. If your trip upset him, he could have made another date as a defensive move. Just tell him the truth, that you went to New York with a girlfriend and are sorry you weren’t more forthright. And see what he says,” I advised.

Fear of abandonment is an intense emotion. I should know. I had a bad case of it from the time I was a little girl, until well into my adulthood.

If my husband Douglas didn’t return home precisely when I expected him, I became frantic, and thought he was dead. If Edgar didn’t call me precisely at 5:30 am, when he arrived at his office every morning, I was beside myself. I felt almost as if he didn’t exist. When Edgar and I would go on an extended vacation, I became distraught towards the end, knowing he’d be returning to Florida and I to New York.

When I talked to Charlotte after her weekend away, she reported that her man did meet the woman, “but didn’t have sex.” When she asked him why he made the date, he told her that he’s terrified of commitment (if you don’t commit, you don’t have to worry about being abandoned), but it scares him that he has no control over his deep feelings for Charlotte and cannot see his life without her in it.

Charlotte told him to “grow a pair and make a choice.” Otherwise, they’d be finished, she added.

“Pffff…men….when do they ever grow up?” she asked.

This is a complicated subject, but I’d love to know what you’d do in Charlotte’s situation.

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An Anti-Aging Pill– For Real http://venusblogs.com/an-anti-aging-pill-for-real-2/ http://venusblogs.com/an-anti-aging-pill-for-real-2/#respond Mon, 11 Jul 2016 18:26:41 +0000 http://venusblogs.com/an-anti-aging-pill-for-real-2/ leadNo matter how many anti-aging lotions and potions I rub into my skin, it’s unlikely that I’m going to wake up one day soon, glance in the mirror, and see my 30-old-face staring back at me.  But the burgeoning nutritional supplement market, estimated at a whopping $20+ billion, consistently promises it can help me live healthier–and feel younger. Although I’d be willing to keep my crow’s feet and laugh lines, in exchange for feeling as tip-top as I did decades ago, so many supplement claims seem downright absurd, even if Dr. Oz is making them!

It got my attention, however, when I heard that a Stanford-educated PhD, with his advanced degree in cancer biology, had discovered a vitamin that actually could reduce the effects of aging and prompt our cells to act like they did when we were younger. Was this for real?  

I wanted to learn more, so I arranged for an interview with Dr. Charles Brenner, the scientist, and asked him to explain his discovery in non-scientific terms. If a highly educated scientist hoped to teach me anything, he had to make it simple. Biology was my worst subject in high school!

Discovering The Pathway To Cell Longevity

Dr. Brenner is the polar opposite of Dr. Oz when it comes to publicity; that’s why you’ve likely never heard his name. The brilliant scientist discovered the pathway between nicotinamide riboside (NR), a miracle molecule with exciting ‘anti-aging’ abilities, and nicotinamide adenine dinucleotide (NAD), which is the single most important molecule in every single cell of our bodies. Now Dr. Brenner is speaking out about his discovery, because many companies misleadingly claim that their supplements can do the same thing as supplements with NR. That’s simply not true, he asserts!

“OK, so what’s the big deal about NR?” I asked Dr. Brenner. “We all absolutely need it,” he quickly responded. “NR is a form of vitamin B3 that helps our cells to produce NAD. NAD performs a number of critical functions: It enables our cells to convert the fats, proteins and carbohydrates we eat into the energy we need to stay in top shape. It also activates our longevity genes, known in the scientific community as sirtuin genes, which regulate cellular aging and the chemical and biological processes that help us maintain healthy and fit lives. Those processes are called metabolism,” Dr. Brenner told me.

Unfortunately, our level of NAD substantially declines as our bodies slow down with age, making us more susceptible to certain health issues, like hearing loss, rare muscle diseases, nerve damage, heart conditions, obesity, diabetes, and more. Aging is the biggest risk factor for many of the diseases that kill us. Doing cardio and weight-bearing exercises all week, consuming a diet of nutritious whole foods, getting adequate sleep, and staying away from smoking and drinking, WON’T stop the decline of NAD, Dr. Brenner emphasizes.

What Your Metabolism Absolutely Needs As You Age

NAD gives our metabolism the extra push it needs to reduce the effects of aging, and make the cells function like they did when they were younger. That’s a big deal.

Here’s another way to think about NR: It’s like the fuel to keep an engine functioning in an energy-efficient car. “As the engine becomes older, it becomes less efficient, and requires more fuel to keep it maintained,” Dr. Brenner explains. “Cells damaged by the inevitable stresses of life, such as aging, exposure to sun, or alcohol, look for NR in order to replenish their NAD and repair the damage.” If they can’t get it, they die.

Prior to Dr. Brenner’s discovery, our cells could produce NAD with the help of  tryptophan, an amino acid which synthesises protein, or from niacin and nicotinamide, also forms of vitamin B3. “But each of them has limitations,” Dr. Brenner reports. “Tryptophan is just plain inefficient; niacin at high doses causes flushing, and nicotinamide inhibits sirtuins, those genes I was talking about before that lengthen life, and help treat age-related diseases like diabetes, neurodegeneration, and cancer. The other compounds have been available since the late 1930s, but they don’t provide the additional advantages of NR.”

NR increases NAD, but doesn’t inhibit sirtuins, won’t cause flushing, and is the vitamin that our stressed cells look for to regenerate their vital NAD. When the scientific community first looked at Dr. Brenner’s research, it was excited to see that he had discovered something that would help the aging population to maintain muscle mass and function, as well as heart, nerve and cognitive function. Soon to release the results of a clinical trial, Dr. Brenner expects it to show that the NAD levels of healthy humans increased, even when they took single doses of NR.

A Science-Backed Brand You Can ACTUALLY Trust

home-hero-product-imageThere’s more good news: Dr. Brenner is co-founder and the chief scientist of a company called ProHealthspan, which distributes an NR supplement under the brand name TruNIAGEN®. He wants to assure us that we’re getting the real benefits of his important discovery, and to be wary of other brands that claim to turn back the clock.

People who have started taking TruNIAGEN report subtle changes in their overall feelings of well-being; improved sleep quality; consistent energy; improved cognitive function, and skin health within four to 16 weeks of taking their first dose.

Dr. Brenner also looks forward to determining the role of TruNIAGEN® in improving cholesterol, and helping with weight management, diabetes and neuropathy. “We’re hoping to enroll patients this year in a breast cancer neuropathy trial,” he says.

“My educated guess is that the more stresses a person has, the more TruNIAGEN® will be helpful,” Dr. Brenner claims. “It will be beneficial even when you’re  in your 70s and 80s!”

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