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Fat Shaming Meets Comic Art

BEAUTY, HEALTH & WELL-BEING, MEDIA
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large


I must admit, in the beginning, I was hesitant to get on board with the “Just Be A Real Woman” concept, probably because I knew that coming to terms with the reality of my own body would be a part of that plan. I love the idea of other women accepting themselves, in fact, the whole notion of self-acceptance is both beautiful and foreign to me; nonetheless, that kind of complete confidence is inspirational. I want to accept my body “as is” — I just haven’t been able to.

But something clicked for me after I saw the comic strip that 20-year-old Illustration student, Colleen Clark created for a school project. When she was asked to “write what you know,” she deferred to her immediate experience: feeling “ashamed, embarrassed and hateful of my own body.”

Oh. That again. “That again” was my way of brushing it off, lessening the importance of what is a very real, very intense struggle for almost every woman who must face the daily onslaught of mixed messages — We’re damned if we do (accept our fat/skinny bodies) and we’re damned if we don’t (achieve a certain body image). It’s just one more lesson in how we must slam ourselves down so that we can stay insecure and messed up forever. Read more

How We Perceive Our Own Beauty

BEAUTY, MEDIA
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large


From CoCreate:
FORENSIC ARTIST PROVES WOMEN LITERALLY DON’T KNOW THEIR OWN BEAUTY
BY: JOE BERKOWITZ

Beauty is said to be in the eye of the beholder. Studies have shown, though, that when the beauty in question is a woman’s own, and the beholder’s eye is theirs as well, only 4% of women around the world consider themselves beautiful. Dove has long been working toward shifting that paradigm with the alternately lauded and derided “Real Beauty” campaign. The brand’s latest effort at changing self-perception attempts to do so through eyewitness testimony.

Recently, Dove hired former police forensic artist Gil Zamora to illustrate some psychologically revealing sketches. In a campaign created by Ogilvy Toronto, a series of women described themselves to Zamora in minute detail, from behind a curtain. The artist in turn created composites as though trying to identify a criminal. Next, each participant was asked to describe another woman present. The results are dramatic and sort of moving.

It’s kind of sad to think that the majority of us underestimate the positive impact our appearance has on others. It would seem that we so rarely perceive ourselves as anything more than the sum of our flaws. The video above is an eye-opening experience, almost instantly identifiable. What’s even more jolting is the realization at the end that not only are we better looking than we thought, but that we are also unconscious of the way we so liberally put ourselves down.

When Awareness Leads to Desensitization

MEDIA, POLITICS, SEX
Dori Hartley | VenusBlogs Managing Editor


I remember once — what seemed like a thousand years ago — I sat in the audience during a taping of Saturday Night Live. To give you an idea of how long ago it was, Eddie Murphy was the brand new talent on the show — not even host material at that point. We, the audience members, sat through the rehearsals as well as the live show and I distinctly recall an incident occurring, one that for some reason I would never forget.

Murphy was doing his ad-lib schtick and during his routine he said, “Oh God!” Immediately, the director stopped him to give him notes.

“Eddie, could you do that again please, but this time, don’t say the word God. We can’t say God like that, on TV.”

I hadn’t known that, but apparently at the time, that was protocol. Those were the days when television commercials didn’t slander other people’s products — by name — and you didn’t say the word God. At least not in comedy.

Words like ‘bitch’ were still highly charged secrets, and no one ever called anyone a bitch unless it was in a private setting and meant to deeply wound whomever was on the receiving end. The N word was even more taboo. Pop culture hadn’t yet discovered these words, and television — the media — had not yet found a way to exploit them. Those were the days where we still respected certain words and that respect not only taught us discretion — it allowed us to retain a certain dignity. Read more

Menstruating on the Front Line

MEDIA, POLITICS
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large
photo: http://www.rawstory.com/


Women in combat. Do you think having one’s period might affect a woman’s judgement during battle? Should PMS be considered a deterrent in proper decision making when it comes to the idea of women on the front line? What do you think? State Rep. Terri Proud was fired for stating her opinion.

The director of Arizona’s Department of Veterans’ Services resigned on Wednesday after the woman he hired to coordinate a female veterans’ conference, former State Rep. Terri Proud (R), said that women may be less suited to serve in combat because of their menstrual cycles.

“Women have certain things during the month I’m not sure they should be out there dealing with,” Proud told the Arizona Senora News Service on Tuesday. “I don’t know how to address that topic in a very diplomatic manner.”

Source: Terri Proud, Arizona Official, Fired Over Comment About Menstrual Cycles In Combat

Proud was fired for the comment that led to director Joey Strickland’s resignation. A spokesman for Gov. Jan Brewer (R) told the News Service that the governor’s office had specifically told Strickland not to hire Proud in the first place.

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Twitter Thursday

MEDIA, SEX, V TALK
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large


Here are a few choice nuggets from the tweet deck this morning. Let’s see what the twitterverse thinks of the keyword: LABIA.

-No, Dennis! More labia, less Libya!


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Ginger Spice Tweets

MEDIA, SEX
Dori Hartley | VenusBlogs Managing Editor
Photo: Getty Images/Huffington Post


A few days ago, Geri Halliwell, formerly known as Ginger Spice of the Spice Girls tweeted a special 30th birthday greeting to a fan. To the fan she wrote:

…to which, the people of Earth — or at least those who care what celebrities say on twitter — became all bent out of shape, finding the tweet to be a little too much information to handle. And, as it goes with offended and uncomfortable humans, they like to make an even bigger deal about what makes them feel this way by creating media hype to support their opinion. Read more

The Teacher Who Dared to Say Vagina

MEDIA, POLITICS, SEX, V TALK
Adrian Lamb | VB Blogger
Photo of Tim McDaniel courtesy of Huffington Post


William McGuinness, for Huffington Post Politics writes: Tim McDaniel, Idaho Teacher, Explained ‘Vagina’ In Sex Ed Class, So He’s Being Investigated

Parents in Dietrich, Idaho, say the word “vagina” has no place in a 10th grade science class, according to news website MagicValley.com.

A small group from Dietrich, population 332, complained to the Idaho State Department of Education, which launched an official investigation of science teacher Tim McDaniel. He is accused of teaching “sex education material” in a science class, describing “inappropriate” forms of birth control, telling “inappropriate” jokes in class and showing a video clip that depicted a genital herpes infection.

I can just hear those “inappropriate jokes” in my head right now. “So, you know kids, unprotected sex can lead to some very nasty consequences, nyuk nyuk nyuk…” Definitely enough of a reason to burn this guy at the stake, wouldn’t you say?

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Body Image Report: The BIG Reveal

BEAUTY, MEDIA, MIND-BODY
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large
Photo: Beth Ditto, singer


This 5-foot-tall, 200-pound singer spoke openly about her weight to The Advocate, saying, “I feel sorry … for people who’ve had skinny privilege and then have it taken away from them. I have had a lifetime to adjust to seeing how people treat women who aren’t their idea of beautiful and therefore aren’t their idea of useful, and I had to find ways to become useful to myself.”

It’s like everything we’ve ever heard about blind people who, due to the fact that they’re moving through a sighted world, have developed superior coping skills as well as well-honed alternate senses in order to survive. Read more