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Menopause and Skincare

HEALTH, MENOPAUSE
Gabrielle Vaughn
 | Blogger



You may have noticed that the older you get, the drier your skin becomes. As women age, their skin suffers a slowdown in oil production and cell turnover, especially after menopause; dry skin and menopause often become synonymous for most women. To keep dry skin in the best condition possible, it’s important to use proper cleansers that won’t deplete skin of moisture and to exfoliate on a weekly basis. Most important, you’ll need to keep skin moisturized throughout the day.

The delicate skin of the internal and external vagina is especially sensitive, and it may be more susceptible to dryness and irritation than other areas of the body. Skin care during menopause may seem easy, but moisturizers intended for the face or body can cause redness, irritation and discomfort when applied to this delicate skin. Instead, choose products designed especially for the vagina and surrounding area, such as Dr. Blatt’s PrivateRx brand of intimate skin care.

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What is Vaginal Atrophy?

HEALTH, V TALK
Gabrielle Vaughn | Blog Lady


According to the Mayo Clinic, vaginal atrophy, also called atrophic vaginitis, is thinning, drying and inflammation of the vaginal walls due to your body having less estrogen. Vaginal atrophy occurs most often after menopause, but it can also develop during breast-feeding or at any other time your body’s estrogen production declines.

For many women, vaginal atrophy makes intercourse painful — and if intercourse hurts, your interest in sex will naturally decrease. In addition, healthy genital function is closely connected with healthy urinary system function.

Simple, effective treatments for vaginal atrophy are available. Reduced estrogen levels result in changes to your body, but it doesn’t mean you have to live with the discomfort of vaginal atrophy.  Read more

Can We Not? (have sex, that is)

MENOPAUSE, SEX
Evan Chen | Blogger Extraordinaire


I have a friend who claims to be an asexual. Asexual is a word that, to me, suggests a single celled organism. Isn’t an asexual a creature who divides in two — or some kind of dual-gendered seahorse who fertilizes and carries his/her offspring to term?

So, I asked her whatever did she mean by this claim, and she said, “Well, I just don’t partake in sexual activity.” It seemed simple enough, yet I still couldn’t quite grasp this seemingly unnatural lack of sex-drive.

“Ah,” I said. “So you’ve taken a vow of celibacy?”

“No, it’s not that complicated. I just don’t like sex, so I don’t have it.”

I was confused. What on earth would ever make her abstain from glorious, wondrous, ecstatic sex? Did sex cause her pain? Was it an emotional abstinence? Did something happen to her that made her equate sex with negativity? What was wrong with her that she didn’t like sex?

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PrivateRx Helps With Sexual Pain

HEALTH, V TALK
Evan Chen | Contributor


Millions of women experience vaginal discomfort, and sometimes crippling pain, for a variety of reasons, most often a loss of estrogen. The resulting vaginal dryness and atrophy can make sexual intercourse, a pelvic exam, urinating, or even sitting, walking or cycling a painful nightmare.

Among the many patients treated by Dr. Deborah Coady, a New York gynecologist and author, with Nancy Fish, of “Healing Painful Sex,” are those told by other doctors that “It’s all in your head,” “You just need to relax,” “There must be something wrong in your relationship,” or “There’s nothing physically wrong with you.” One doctor even suggested that a patient tell her boyfriend to get another girlfriend. Read more

They Make it Look So Easy

WELL BEING, MEDIA
Gabrielle Vaughn | Blogger Du Jour


Over the years, I’ve come to appreciate self-discipline as an invisible magic. You can’t see, taste, or smell it, but its effects are unmistakable. It can transform overweight into slim, uninformed into expert, poor into rich, and misery into happiness. It’s the submerged part of the iceberg others don’t see when they see a person’s “genius.”

For example, celebrities have never been more visible in our culture. Famous athletes, talented actors and actresses, and incredible musicians are all over the media. But what we don’t see are the thousands of hours of super-focused work these people have put in behind the scenes to get to where they are.

It’s easy to feel that success comes easily – that it’s just a matter of luck, or an innate gift. But anyone who has achieved anything has done so because they’ve been able to control and direct their own inner strengths and actions to the extent that has enabled them to become super-skilled at what they do. And this kind of self-discipline, like a muscle, can be developed by all of us, including you.

– Marc Chernoff “Secret Tricks of Highly Productive, Self-Disciplined People”

The photo depicts Gloria Steinem and Dorothy Pitman-Hughes, both stellar examples of self-discipline, both leaders in women’s rights.

For information on intimate skincare for mature women, please get to know us at PrivateRx.

Female Lust, 50+

SEX, RELATIONSHIPS
Adrian Lamb | Blogger Extraordinaire


I‘m not exactly a super sexual person. I’m still interested but I just have very specific preferences when it comes to sex. I’m in my fifties now, so I no longer have the frisky energy of a younger woman. When I was young and hungry for sex, the world was my playground. I was out to conquer and be conquered. Age puts perspective on things.

It’s that very lack of desperation that’s freed me, sexually speaking. Having come to terms with the mature woman that I’ve become, I’m finally in touch with what I want. And what I want is younger men.

Fortunately, younger men seem to gravitate toward me. When I first noticed this phenomenon, I thought NO WAY! What could these young dudes see in me? Recently, a lovely man of about 23 approached me. He could hardly catch his breath while telling me how beautiful he thought I was. I laughed in his face. In my mind I looked more like an exhumed corpse than an object of lust on that bright (very bright) afternoon.

As he reached out to touch my bare arm and caressed it. Uh oh, this guy was serious. I must admit, it was an incredible turn on. He asked for my number and I gave it to him, still laughing. Did I really want to pursue this, or was this just a perfect moment unto itself? Either way, his attention thrilled me. Read more

It’s Egg-Freezing Time

HEALTH, PREGNANCY
Evan Chen | Contributor


Egg freezing. As they say these days, “It’s a thing now.”

If you’ve been awake over the last few days and you’ve managed to hear above the words, ebola and Isis, then you may have heard the news that Facebook and Apple are now willing to pay for the freezing of their female employees ovum. According to The Guardian, the new trend is apparently very exciting news for women younger than age 40. Read more

Is It Pinktober Yet?

HEALTH
Gabrielle Vaughn | Blogger du Jour


Well, we’ve hit October – time to do things in pink. Wait, what are we celebrating again?

Oh yeah. Breast cancer awareness month. Not a celebration, though you sure would think so with all the happy pink bubbles. You know what pink made me aware of? That pink exists but a cure does not. Pink let me know that money exists – but still, the cure eludes us.

It’s Pinktober again — and you know what that means? It means that we the people get to celebrate the sisterhood of the traveling cancer, with pretty pink parades and pinky-pink ribbons. Let’s march through the streets, hand in hand O My Sisters, ’cause fighting cancer is a pretty pink bonding experience. Yippy, skippy! Read more

Kill the Bitch (It’s a Tired Word)

AESTHETICS, MENOPAUSE
Adrian Lamb | Blogger Extraordinaire


The other day, I overheard a 9-year old girl describe her own mood as “bitchy.” She had said that she believed she might be getting her period because she confessed that she’d been “acting like such a bitch these days.”

Hormones aside, I thought that was quite an inappropriate word for such a young girl to use, especially as a descriptive for her own self. I’m no prude, nor do I think the word, “Bitch” is all that horrid – I simply wondered how a child her age came to feel comfortable with a word that was generally used in the context of slang.

Of course, children have access to a wide vocabulary of inappropriate words — think how many they must overhear on TV alone. But rarely does a child actually know how to apply these words, unless specifically instructed. Where was she getting her information? And what made this young girl equate menstruation with the word, “bitchy?” Read more

Cold Turkey is For Everyone

Cold turkey is for everyone.

The other day my daughter’s 18-yr-old boyfriend asked me if I’d ever been a smoker, to which I answered, “Yes.” I explained that I had been a smoker from ages 18 through 21, and that I started only for one reason: because it sure did look cool. When he asked me how I quit, my first reaction was, “What kind of question is that? You just quit. You make a decision to stop and you stop.”

He then said, “Ah, cold turkey.”

“Yes,” I said. “Cold turkey. Is there any other way?”

And then he, as a young man, rattled off the many new ways one can quit cigarettes. Seems quitting has found itself in a place where good old self effort has been made to take a backseat. We are now ready, willing and able – to be enabled. The idea of just deciding to quit is no longer an option, even if we innately know how satisfying it might be to do so on our own. Now, taking responsibility for our positive actions is discouraged; now we are being trained to underestimate just how good we really can be at tackling solutions because enabling doesn’t work without self-doubt. Read more