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Body Beautiful Carrying On

Gabrielle Vaughn
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I just read this article, What Kylie Jenner Wearing A DUFF Shirt Means For Plus Size Women Everywhere – and loved it. I’m so glad there’s a consciousness that pushes self acceptance. What a world we’d live in, what a personalized experience of the world we live in if we all had true self acceptance, and self esteem. I don’t usually turn to Kylie Jenner for any kind of daily revelation, but there is something interesting about her playing the lesser and making us all question the levels of beauty, and how no matter who you are or what you look like, you could always be somebody’s DUFF.

There’s no telling when the term DUFF (acronymous for Designated Ugly Fat Friend) originated exactly, but it certainly reached a seemingly climactic moment in 2010 upon the release of Kody Keplinger’s novel The DUFF — a body positive book exploring the subjectivity of beauty and desire. And five years later, we’re seeing something of a resurgence of the word due to CBS’s February 20th release of the novel’s film adaptation starring the fabulous Mae Whitman. With Kylie’s newfound ownership of the term, well, my guess is it’s not going anywhere, anytime soon.

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Call It What It Is: Vagina

Adrian Lamb | Blogger On the Go

Denise Vivaldo, in her essay for The Huffington Post, writes:

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I happen to love my vagina. We have been through thick and thin together. The great, the good, the average and the occasional nights we never speak of. Ever.

Now that we are 60, which is the new 40, we both feel we have a lot of great years ahead of us. We love being older and wiser. We love being a wife, a boss, a woman. We pay our taxes. We are good citizens. It seems only right that we be in charge of our own life, because my vagina and me, we belong to each other and nobody else.

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Talking About Sexual Inadequacy

Gabrielle Vaughn
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How do we communicate when it comes to feelings of sexual inadequacy?

We live in a time where we are encouraged to fly our freak flags high; if we’ve got something strange, unique or even problematic – these are the days when open communication is the norm.

Remember when mental health was a hush-hush secret? Now, things like depression are talked about openly and there are no barriers to prevent a person from finding help. The same goes for sexual expression – over the years, women have been empowered to such a point where one can tell their sexual partner what it is that turns them on – without it being a huge embarrassment.

And even as we grow in our ways of expression, even as we step into fearlessness and the courageous ways we can talk about our bodies to our partners – there is one threshold that still seems to be off-limits…and that’s the doorway that leads to what we hold as our secret neurosis. Read more

A Happy, Healthy Vagina

Gabrielle Vaughn
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What causes vaginal irritation, and what preventative measures can be taken to avoid this? Even though the advice comes in a rather goofy style of prose, I found that this advice was excellent and well worth the read. From Women’s Health Magazine:

1. Sitting on a Bike Seat Without Padding
Ever have your labia go numb—or even start to hurt—during a SoulCycle session? That’s your vagina making it loud and clear that the way you’re sitting on the cycle seat is compressing nerves and blood vessels in your crotch, which over time can reduce genital sensation. A 2012 study from Yale University looked into this more closely, finding that women who rode stationary bikes with the handlebars lower than the seat experienced the most discomfort. If it happens a lot, check your positioning on the bike, or follow these strategies so you and your vagina can continue killing it at your indoor-cycling class.

2. Not Taking off Your Gym Clothes After a Workout
As you lounge around in your sweaty yoga pants, bacteria are breeding like crazy, thanks to all that perspiration your below-the-belt region produces (your vaginal area is packed with sweat glands, you know). If bacteria get into your vaginal canal, they can upset the balance of the microbes that normally live there and cause a yeast infection, says Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., clinical associate professor of ob-gyn at Yale School of Medicine. Change out of your sweaty, stinky gear as soon as you can, and take a quick shower to wash away the sweat that allows infection-causing bugs to thrive. Read more

Body Positive

Gabrielle Vaughn
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There are so many ways we can understand our own bodies and how we appear to both ourselves and to others. Surgically enhancing or modifying ourselves can have an interesting affect; it can give us what we want – or it can give us what we think we wanted – a condition we only realize after the fact. Often times, we put ourselves through an intense amount of self scrutiny and sometimes, in the end, we’re still not satisfied. So, while we enhance, modify, lift, nip, tuck, bypass, lap-band and starve, no matter what we do, we’re still grappling with the same old question: Do I love myself?

Trisha Harms wrote a very interesting blog on the topic of self acceptance as a result of efforts gone wrong. She begs the idea of: What if you are still unhappy after making extreme moves to change your appearance?

She says:

I have always been fat, and for a long time, I really hated it. I spent more than two decades of my life wishing I would magically wake up “normal.” Until I was in my mid-20s, I didn’t know what it felt like to not wear a heavy cloak of shame and insecurity.

Like so many other fat girls with Internet access, I discovered that body positivity was a thing, and that I could feel good about myself and I didn’t really have to give a fuck about what other people thought. I decided to be happy, regardless of my size. I began identifying as a fat feminist. I actually started feeling okay about my body. I was doing okay and there were people who liked me, even loved me, despite my fatness. At some point, I even started kind of liking myself, and then my fatness became somewhat of a non-issue. Eventually I came to be at peace with my body. It was mine and mine alone, and it was beautiful.

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Starting Out the New Year with a Big One

Adrian Lamb | Blogger On the Go

Whether we’re serious or just being facetious, everyone is impressed by a large penis. The real question is – is there such a thing a too big? Can being impressed quickly turn into fear – even dread? Not everyone is porn star after all. But still, we talk a blue streak about size, so there’s something about it that keeps us curious. But the truth is – can we handle all that D?

According to Women’s Health,

In a perfect world, your boyfriend/husband/fiancé/hookup would have the Goldilocks of penises: not too big and not too small—juuuust right for you. But this is not a perfect world, and the truth is that size can sometimes be an issue. His penis and your vagina might not always match up perfectly. We checked in with gynecologist Lauren Streicher, M.D., author of Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever, to find out if a penis can ever be too big for your vagina—and what to do if you find yourself dealing with the papa bear of penises.

Good news: In general, most vaginas are able to fit all shapes and sizes of penises. “Given appropriate arousal and lubrication, most vaginas can expand to fit whatever size penis,” says Streicher.

Is this really true? I mean, if we can deliver a human child through that canal, one would suppose a large penis would look like small potatoes in comparison. Then again, no one ever says delivering a child is easy…

To read more: Can a Penis Be Too Big for Your Vagina?

And while you’re there – start thinking about lubricant. PrivateRx would be your next go-to website for all things smooth and satisfying!

Is It 2016, Yet?

Evan Chen | Blogger Extraordinaire

Another year means only one thing to me — I have to somehow get used to typing a 5 instead of a 4 when I write the year down. That’s basically all of it in a nutshell. The real hurdle to bolt over is in remembering that the beginning of the year starts with a 20, and not a 19.

As for future resolutions, or takeaway lessons that I received in this past year — I suppose I have a few, though as I get older my requirements for a happy life tend to be less ambitious and more about what it takes for me to live in peace. I would have to say that the desire to live in peace is probably the barometer by which I measure all that either disturbed or supported me in this past year.

The year 2014 really exposed for me the concept of jealousy versus generosity of spirit. Thanks to 2014, I know now that there are people who are completely unselfish in the way they show support for those who are fortunate enough to experience positive moments or situations. Adversely, there are those who are utterly threatened by the good fortune of others. Because jealousy is so hard to admit, rarely does it identify as threatened; in fact, in order for jealousy to fulfill its ultimately ugly destiny, it must be channeled into self-righteousness. Jealousy cannot stand happiness and will hopelessly attempt to rid it by dominating the atmosphere with malicious words and actions. It’s a bit of human ugliness that is much like the pungent odor of a trash bin filled with rotting food. The stench of it can permeate even the happiest of events. Read more

Let There Be Wisdom in Age

Gabrielle Vaughn
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One of the perks of being 50-years-old-and-then-some is this freedom-inducing newfound ability to simply not care in the same way you used to when you were, say, a spry 49-year-old. And that’s a good thing because caring less about what isn’t important saves time and energy. Not caring as much — it works emotionally and intellectually.

It seems as though for most of our lives, we care very intensely for things that we — later on in life — don’t take as seriously. We concentrate on words, on people, on situations; at any given moment, depending on how much we care, we can either ride the wave of life or send our worlds straight to hell.

Want to really rock the boat? Tap the vanity button. A good portion of our years goes to how we care too much about what people think of us. Remember Al Pacino as Lucifer in “The Devil’s Advocate?” He said vanity was his favorite sin. What better way to outwit a human being than to suggest something that makes them self-doubt? Read more

Endometrial Ablation

Gabrielle Vaughn
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Many women’s lives are compromised on a monthly basis due to a common condition: excessively heavy menstruation. While most women can fully accept the natural occurrences that come with with their monthly period, there are others who quite simply suffer through them. This kind of suffering not only cramps one’s style, it makes living a normal life outright impossible. It’s not just the bleeding — it’s the anemia that comes with the blood loss, the overwhelming fatigue and the irritability and moodiness that come as a result.

But this irritability is not just hormonal — it’s because having heavy periods is a sincere drag. Nobody wants to be the person who “can’t do, can’t go, can’t get up, can’t work” etc… and, unfortunately, heavy periods can become such a burden that, for the women who suffer them, the experience of “can’t do” becomes the unwanted norm. Read more