New, on YourTango.com, an article I wrote that may open some eyes on the subject of mastectomy, reconstruction and what the world thinks these things really are.
“The good news is, you’ll have a brand new pair of breasts!” Well, not exactly.
Ever wonder why we’re all so crazy about breasts? Because they’re so damned desirable, that’s why. This is a reality that every woman who’s undergone a mastectomy deals with each day. Society’s love affair with boobs is a daily reminder that our quest for self-confidence is going to be a bit more circuitous than other women’s.
If you’ve never seen a mastectomy site, you might picture a smooth plane of skin and scar tissue molded masterfully into a flawless breast by virtue of a miracle procedure called reconstruction: all parts beautiful, intact and ready for their closeup. When Angelina Jolie famously wrote a New York Times piece about her decision to have a preventive double mastectomy and reconstruction of her breasts, I noticed that the reactions among my friends and acquaintances — aside from admiration — were along the lines of, “Hey, she’s Angelina Jolie. It’ll be easy for her. Give her a couple of days and she’ll be back on the red carpet with the greatest boob job ever.”
To read the article in full: What No One Ever Tells You About Mastectomies & Intimacy by Dori Hartley