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Fetish Rising

Adrian Lamb | Blogger
Art by Dori Hartley

Joe Average Guy wears women’s panties underneath his business attire. Jane Ordinary Gal isn’t interested in sex unless she’s covered in latex. Johnny only likes “bears” in leather chaps and Jeannie wants her date to call her “sir”. And then there’s Gabrielle, *cough* who can only stand men who are young, skinny and have long dark hair. ONLY.

Welcome to the world of fetish, where the phrase, “So, what are you wearing?” holds a lot more weight than we once thought it did. And we, who were not born yesterday, know this all too well.

Fetish isn’t only about clothing. It’s about preference, attitude and a preference for attitude. When people talk about spicing up their lives with a bit of fetish, methinks that’s a stretch, because true fetish is not so much a dress-up game as it is a necessity. When Patty the Housewife puts on a french maid’s outfit to please her husband, it’s fun, it’s kinky — but it’s not fetish. When José the cable guy puts on a french maid’s outfit while reciting passages from Dostoyevsky, in the privacy of his own home, while filming himself — but in order for things to be “just right” the camera must sit on top of a blow up doll dressed as his mother — now that’s fetish.

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Confessions of a Cougar

Evan Chen
 | Blogger

I‘m not what you’d call an incredibly sexual person. Not anymore, anyway. I’m still interested, mind you. I just have very specific preferences when it comes to sex. I’m in my fifties now (and hopefully wiser for the wear), so I no longer have the frisky energy of a younger woman. When I was young and hungry for sex, the world was my playground. I was out to conquer and be conquered. Age puts perspective on things.

In fact, it’s that very lack of desperation that’s freed me, sexually speaking. Having come to terms with the mature woman that I’ve become, I’m finally in touch with what I want. And what I want is younger men. Read more

The Elusive Pink Pearl

Gabrielle Vaughn
 | Blogger

The Clitoris.

Before we get too crazy trying to find the fabled g-spot – which absolutely does exist and once found, proves to be the essential home of happiness – we need to know that a woman’s screaming, screeching, overjoyed hub of unending orgasms totally relies upon our knowledge of where the clitoris is, and how to make it talk.

Don’t be afraid of your vagina. Find out what makes it tick. You probably noticed that there’s a special little button that one can push – you probably noticed that button when you are a small child. That’s the happy button, and when finessed by loving fingers or smooth objects – that button, which we mature women of words like to boldly call THE CLIT – can send off vibrational tremors in our bodies that are so pleasurable, once found, we may never want to leave.

Once educated on the actual parts of our intimate self, it’s time to take that knowledge and share it with our partner. To the day, women are still shy about instructing a lover to ‘go there’ or ‘use the swirl’ – as was made famous on Seinfeld. The elusive pink pearl must be the star in every good orgasm, and even though we spend all our time wondering what we can do to achieve the g-spot ‘event’ – ain’t nothing like the avalanche of HAPPY that is right there for the taking, when we pay attention to the tiny little treasure we have nestled between our legs.

Have fun seeking.

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External Vaginal Moisturizer – a VB Testimonial

Gabrielle Vaughn
 | Blogger

Being on the inside, I get to try all the cool stuff. It takes audacity to smile with interest while receiving a beautifully packaged vaginal moisturizer, expertly designed for the moisturizing of the external areas of the vagina. It was more than likely in the gift giver’s interest to hear a follow up on how it worked…

Well, I received the entire PrivateRx line of intimate skincare products, and the External Vaginal Moisturizer seemed to call my name. I wanted to try it. There was something appealing to me about the specifics of ‘external’ – that sounded very ‘catering’ to me, I liked it. I showered and decided, “Hey, this is the moment.” I dried off and applied a small amount of PrivateRx – at first it felt warm, it seemed to warm the area. Completely pleasant. And I felt a very healthy, warm and moisturized feeling throughout the day.

I really, really liked this product, and I would recommend it to all women, of any age. It just feels good. It feels healthy and gives you the kind of moisture and natural lubrication to feel completely comfortable all day and night.

It’s an absolutely wonderful way to start off the PrivateRx line.


So, this is what I’m talking about: PrivateRx External Vaginal Moisturizer

You’re a Rock-n-Roll Menopause

Gabrielle Vaughn | Blogger

So, if you’re presently going through menopause, there’s a good chance you’re of the generation that went crazy with music and bands. As little kids we probably watched Bewitched and I Dream of Jeannie together, in different cute bedrooms. We knew George Takei as Sulu, the real deal. We’d listen to Seals and Crofts and Badfinger and by the time it was summer, we were ready for all kinds of trouble.

Back in those days, a little later, say — late teens/early twenties, you might have been into either disco or punk. Glitter was a major part of our lives, we believed in it. For me, the glitter was always black.

For those of us worldwide who veered to the dark side, we had Stevie Nicks to front the team for the Forever Dark Club of Women and Faerie-like Beings. We still exist, though we’ve toned the make up down considerably.

We really are a sisterhood if you think about it. I mean, we’ve seen Alex Trebek’s entire career play out before our eyes. And he still looks fantastic.

We knew life without computers. And some of us before color TV. Yes, it is so! Read more

Was It Snow for You?

Gabrielle Vaughn
 | Blogger

I just got off the phone with my mother, who lives on New York City’s upper east side. Seems the city is shut down – possibly prematurely? Mom reports that’s the blizzard that is supposed to cover the city in two feet’s worth of frozen white goodness looks like a half an inch of snow on her block.

But! Alas, the stars who make the news can still grab a piece of celebrity in their quest to always be on camera with intense ‘news’ – Next week, an even bigger blizzard is coming!

Does that mean a whole inch?

Years ago, I was on my way to a convention, where I was supposed to give a lecture on hair care – it was a hard, hard icy snow and I slipped and cracked my hip. The show went on and I made it to my engagement, despite my aching body. Now, snow and ice scare me – so my take-away was fear.

Whether you got the crazy half an inch of snow – or you’re the next Jack Torrence, stuck in your own personal Overlook from The Shining, take very good care out there. It’s not easy to get around, and it’s not only the snow that can make things difficult. Look where you walk – the ice is invisible. Be careful, watch your footing, and look at what you’re about to step on. While it’s laughable to think a half an inch is any kind of serious threat – it’s still slippery, and a fall is a fall. Watch your step out there!

Be safe.

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Walt Disney said “Vagina” first!

Gabrielle Vaughn
 | Blogger

Here’s a mind blowing little fact for you:

As strange as it may seem, Walt Disney was on the forefront of women talking about their vaginae (plural of vagina). In 1946, Disney was commissioned by the Cello-Cotton company (who made Kotex feminine napkins) to make a film called The Story of Menstruation, which mentioned the V-word for the very first time on celluloid. The film was never released theatrically, but was shown to 105 million American students, along with advertisements for girls to make sure to use their brand when it came to “that time of the month.” The film was hardly pornographic – in fact, menstrual blood is shown as white instead of red. It is now in the public domain and can be watched below!

Interesting, eh? Well, did you also know that… Read more

Menopause 2015

Evan Chen
 | Blogger

According to NAMS (North American Menopause Society), we should be planning a healthful rest of the year. I agree! Let’s put our minds and bodies into action this year. We’re big girls, after all!

A new year is upon us. It is a great time to think about where we are and where we want to be. What are your personal priorities for 2015? If you’re still trying to come up with a resolution or a new direction, here are a few options to consider:

Harmonizing your relationships
Improving your personal health and fitness
Focusing on your physical, emotional, and/or spiritual life
Learning a new skill or pursuing a new interest
Setting a new career or social goal
Completing a specific project that has been on the back burner for a while
Choosing a new, healthy habit to replace an unhealthy habit
Supporting a worthy cause by volunteering/donating
At midlife, we generally have lot to reflect upon looking backwards and a lot to envision looking forward.

What are some of your attainable goals for this coming year? How do you plan on treating this marvelous body of yours?

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Body Beautiful Carrying On

Gabrielle Vaughn
 | Blogger

I just read this article, What Kylie Jenner Wearing A DUFF Shirt Means For Plus Size Women Everywhere – and loved it. I’m so glad there’s a consciousness that pushes self acceptance. What a world we’d live in, what a personalized experience of the world we live in if we all had true self acceptance, and self esteem. I don’t usually turn to Kylie Jenner for any kind of daily revelation, but there is something interesting about her playing the lesser and making us all question the levels of beauty, and how no matter who you are or what you look like, you could always be somebody’s DUFF.

There’s no telling when the term DUFF (acronymous for Designated Ugly Fat Friend) originated exactly, but it certainly reached a seemingly climactic moment in 2010 upon the release of Kody Keplinger’s novel The DUFF — a body positive book exploring the subjectivity of beauty and desire. And five years later, we’re seeing something of a resurgence of the word due to CBS’s February 20th release of the novel’s film adaptation starring the fabulous Mae Whitman. With Kylie’s newfound ownership of the term, well, my guess is it’s not going anywhere, anytime soon.

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Call It What It Is: Vagina

Adrian Lamb | Blogger On the Go

Denise Vivaldo, in her essay for The Huffington Post, writes:

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I happen to love my vagina. We have been through thick and thin together. The great, the good, the average and the occasional nights we never speak of. Ever.

Now that we are 60, which is the new 40, we both feel we have a lot of great years ahead of us. We love being older and wiser. We love being a wife, a boss, a woman. We pay our taxes. We are good citizens. It seems only right that we be in charge of our own life, because my vagina and me, we belong to each other and nobody else.

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