POSITIVE OUTLOOK, SELF LOVE
Gabrielle Vaughn | Blogger
here are so many ways we can understand our own bodies and how we appear to both ourselves and to others. Surgically enhancing or modifying ourselves can have an interesting affect; it can give us what we want – or it can give us what we think
we wanted – a condition we only realize after the fact. Often times, we put ourselves through an intense amount of self scrutiny and sometimes, in the end, we’re still not satisfied. So, while we enhance, modify, lift, nip, tuck, bypass, lap-band and starve, no matter what we do, we’re still grappling with the same old question: Do I love myself?
Trisha Harms wrote a very interesting blog on the topic of self acceptance as a result of efforts gone wrong. She begs the idea of: What if you are still unhappy after making extreme moves to change your appearance?
I have always been fat, and for a long time, I really hated it. I spent more than two decades of my life wishing I would magically wake up “normal.” Until I was in my mid-20s, I didn’t know what it felt like to not wear a heavy cloak of shame and insecurity.
Like so many other fat girls with Internet access, I discovered that body positivity was a thing, and that I could feel good about myself and I didn’t really have to give a fuck about what other people thought. I decided to be happy, regardless of my size. I began identifying as a fat feminist. I actually started feeling okay about my body. I was doing okay and there were people who liked me, even loved me, despite my fatness. At some point, I even started kind of liking myself, and then my fatness became somewhat of a non-issue. Eventually I came to be at peace with my body. It was mine and mine alone, and it was beautiful.