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Girl Play – Video

MEDIA, SEX
Gabrielle Vaughn | Venus Blogs Editor at Large
Photo: allthingsghana


Glennisha Morgan, of the Huffington Post writes about the new web television series, “Girl Play,” in which the plot is centered around 4 black lesbian characters, set in New Orleans.

“Girl Play TV” fills the void of leading fictional black lesbian characters with masculine-centered or identified women. The New Orleans-based show is about four femme-identified lesbians and their journeys to finding loving and their own identities.

“I chose to focus on femme identified lesbians because the majority of web series that cater to the African American lesbian community focus on masculine-identified women,” creator, writer and producer Aryka Randall told Huff Post Gay Voices. “The story lines follow ‘studs’ and highlight relationships between them and their feminine partners. While this is common in the LGBT community, it’s not a reality for all of us. There are a number of feminine lesbian women who prefer to date feminine women, and I felt like their stories needed to be told.” Read more

Dear Abby

MEDIA, SEX
Gabrielle Vaughn | Venus Blogs Editor at Large
Photo: abcnews.com


When I was a small child, my parents were the kind of folks that read every paper printed and then set free the smudgy pages to travel all over the house. Bathrooms, foyers, bedrooms, terraces — all these places could be areas where one could seek and find current events, movie listings and department store sale advertisements. You could even find not so current events in those stacks if that were your inclination (I suppose my parents liked old news). Thankfully, the door to my bright orange and yellow room was off limits and any mess accumulated within my restricted space was my own. House rules: No newspapers in — no smelly socks out. It was a perfect balance. My parents were the intelligencia and I was the cloistered young slob.

However, on Sundays, when the pressure to get to school was temporarily turned off, I would make my way over to the pancake-and-syrup smelling dining room to find my dad sitting behind a pile of papers and my mom settling into her own version of the Parent-Is-Heavily-Involved-In-The-News scene. These people read. They knew everything about everything, and all I knew was that if it wasn’t easy to grasp — I wasn’t interested.

So, I found something that was easy to grasp. The Dear Abby column — written advice in response to inquiring letters on the subjects of love and relationships. Abigail Van Buren, AKA Pauline Phillips wrote the most popular and widely syndicated column in the world — known for its “uncommon common sense and youthful perspective”. Read more

Vulvas in Nature

MEDIA, SEX
Adrian Lamb | VB Blogger
Photo: Shutterstock


If you’re the kind who shies away from the word, “vagina” and all that goes with it, including imagery, then by all means: DON’T GO OUTSIDE! Because planet Earth is not about to stop flaunting it’s vulvic madness anytime too soon.

If, on the other hand, you enjoy the happy coincidence that nature gifts us with when she offers up these odd and decidedly vaginal-looking flowers, then you’ll be happy to know that these flowers are not as shy as you! What’s not said in words, screams, “Look at me” in flower talk.

You don’t just look like this without some human going and naming you, “Clitoria”. And yes, that is the proper name for this flower.

Photo: Wikimedia Commons/Vinayaraj

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Menopause and Motherhood

HEALTH, MENOPAUSE
Gabrielle Vaughn | Venus Blogs Editor at Large


Because the fun never really stops when you’re a woman, if you’re like me, you get to experience the parallel universes of being in menopause at the same time as your teenage daughter emerges into a full blown hellwave of hormonal change.

Those hormones, huh? Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em…

Now, I’m not saying that menopause shoots you straight into geezerdom, but there is no greater show of age-contrast than to warm up by your cup of tea (after a hot flash turns cold on you — as they do…) while having your 15 year old daughter cartwheel past you, screaming that she’s dying to MOSH.

“Mom, I want to play you something I learned on the guitar.”

“OK, honey. Let’s hear what you’ve got.”

Kid comes back in with guitar balanced in air, she plays, you praise, she leaves, comes back with skateboard, screams, texts a friend — in fact, she actually looks like the Cat in the Hat doing that balancing act with the fish and the pots and pans. The kid is a whirlwind of female energy and feistiness, and even though she’s got on possibly the tightest jeggings known to man, jeans that if they had any less air in their fit would certainly cause leg-death — she looks GOOD in them, she even looks sexy in her “hey that’s my little girl, don’t you dare call her “sexy”” way. Read more

Sometimes Sexy is Just for Me

AESTHETICS, SEX, SURGERY
Gabrielle Vaughn | Venus Blogs Editor at Large


Ever notice how much emphasis is placed on telling people how great our sex lives are? For some reason, we really feel this burning need to prove to others that, by having sex (and lots of it), we are valid, worthy, normal human beings. And, of course, one of the reasons we tell people is because this is what is expected of us; we’re all supposed to give the impression that we’re bouncing off the walls each night. According to the mass consciousness, sex is what makes a relationship ‘real’, and if you’re not having steady mind-boggling sex, then society gets to deem you a sad, lonely person who lives in a dream world of frustrated misery.

But here’s the thing: I don’t swing from the chandeliers nightly (weekly, or monthly) and I’m still relatively happy. I don’t really need sex. I suppose somewhere along the line I got bored with it, bit of a ‘been-there-done-that-a-thousand-zillion-times’ kind of thing. I just feel there’s a possibility that I’ve had enough sex in my life. Could this change? Who knows, stranger things have happened. All I know is that right now, I’m good. Read more

How To Have Sex

MEDIA, SEX
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large


Imagine being taught how to have sex — as in training, practice, study, etc. Can you see this? Isn’t it funny that nobody ever receives any formal instruction on this, that sex is this thing we’re all supposed to just figure out instinctively? We get a bit of sex education in early school and we learn about our genitals through diagrams on paper. We walk away knowing a little more about the reproduction system and sexually transmitted disease than we did prior to the course…but we never learn how to actually play hot dogs and donuts…or donuts and donuts…or hot dogs and hot dogs.

When you come to think of it, the only thing we have to guide us as to what we’re supposed to look like, act like or feel like is what we see in the movies. And, if we’re really going to cut out the middle man, which I guess in the case of a movie would mean plot, what we have left is the way-over-the-top-completely-unrealistic “instructional video” otherwise known as porn.

But if porn is an unrealistic vision of sex, why do so many people try to be porn stars in their own relationships? Read more

How To Have Sex

MEDIA, SEX
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large


Imagine being taught how to have sex — as in training, practice, study, etc. Can you see this? Isn’t it funny that nobody ever receives any formal instruction on this, that sex is this thing we’re all supposed to just figure out instinctively? We get a bit of sex education in early school and we learn about our genitals through diagrams on paper. We walk away knowing a little more about the reproduction system and sexually transmitted disease than we did prior to the course…but we never learn how to actually play hot dogs and donuts…or donuts and donuts…or hot dogs and hot dogs.

When you come to think of it, the only thing we have to guide us as to what we’re supposed to look like, act like or feel like is what we see in the movies. And, if we’re really going to cut out the middle man, which I guess in the case of a movie would mean plot, what we have left is the way-over-the-top-completely-unrealistic “instructional video” otherwise known as porn.

But if porn is an unrealistic vision of sex, why do so many people try to be porn stars in their own relationships? Read more

GQ and the Sexy Chick

AESTHETICS, MEDIA, SEX
Gabrielle Vaughn | VenusBlogs Editor at Large


Looks like someone wasn’t content to simply come off as the coolest men’s fashion magazine around. And for years now, the once uber-chic GQ magazine has been broadening it’s horizons in such a way that it has gone from a sort of “urban-Vogue” to a Maxim wannabe. Sex sells, right?

I used to read GQ just so I could gawk over the male models in their impeccable suits with their perfectly mussed hair. I’m sure there were many a gay dude who enjoyed the same pleasures as I: the ability to pick up a magazine that wasn’t porn, kick back and thrill to well-photographed fashion editorials depicting lovely men dressed in haute couture designs that no one could afford — but who cared? We weren’t there to buy the fashion, only to look at the beauties wearing them.

And then, in 2005, Jennifer Aniston seemed to change all that. Again. Again with Jennifer Aniston, whose clothed nipples seem to be some sort of rite of passage: If you want to live on Earth, you must seek the Nips of Aniston. Yes, young Frodo, you may find these nips — and more — within the pages of Gentlemen’s Quarterly. Read more